the beginning of the end...
As a wedding planner, I've really had the best of both worlds. It's not many women who can share in the excitement of planning a wedding and then do it all again the following weekend. And what a pity that is! I'm yet to meet a bride who doesn't think the day went by too quickly.
So many plans, so many ideas, so much excitement, so many people, so many glances, so much going on in your head...and by the time you step out for your confetti shot, the tide has already turned on your day. So many brides have told me that after the marriage ceremony itself, the rest of the day is just a blur. In fact, I've heard this so consistently that I'm convinced the emotions involved cause some kind of amnesia or time lapse. And if this emotive time amnesia isn't yet proven, hold onto your hats because I'm completely confident science will eventually catch up with this fact soon enough. It happens.
Your wedding day will be the quickest day of your life. It won't feel like it when you're folding menus late at night or making your own bridal shower decorations to save money. But I can attest to you that it will come and go and it will feel like you spent more time anticipating the wedding than you did actually living it. In a way that's fitting. Afterall, such a momentous life event can't be planned in a single afternoon and no one can add a single hour to their lives, even if they would give everything they possess to do so.
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Get serious about documenting the day that is. And you can only really do that with a photographer and (in my opinion) a videographer too. If you haven't read my post Cost Vs Investment, please do.
Consider this: you won't actually see everything you so meticulously planned. Although you've been 'planning' the day in your head from an 'overall' perspective, in reality you don't live in a 'overview mindful perspective' - you'll be on the ground taking part. And that means you'll miss most of what actually happens at your own wedding.
Yes, read that again and let it sink in because unfortunately, it's all true. You can't be in two places at once. Apart from not remembering most of your wedding day thanks to emotional amnesia, it will go so fast that you won't have time to do everything you think you will. It's a double whammy.
Most brides drop by to show me their wedding pictures after the honeymoon. It always strikes me how much these photos nudge their memory - things they'd totally forgotten are re-lived in a split second of recall. It takes a photo to trigger that recall. My personal favourite videography is even more satisfying after the event. If you don't think you're the kind of bride who's going to watch re-runs of her wedding in the years to come, you may surprise yourself. I've known hardened cynics to run for the microwave popcorn and tissues by the time their first anniversary rolls round - and sometimes it's been their first (though decidedly not their last) viewing.
The confetti shot is the beginning of the end, make sure you don't miss a single minute.
Your wedding day will be the quickest day of your life. It won't feel like it when you're folding menus late at night or making your own bridal shower decorations to save money. But I can attest to you that it will come and go and it will feel like you spent more time anticipating the wedding than you did actually living it. In a way that's fitting. Afterall, such a momentous life event can't be planned in a single afternoon and no one can add a single hour to their lives, even if they would give everything they possess to do so.
So what're you going to do about it?
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Consider this: you won't actually see everything you so meticulously planned. Although you've been 'planning' the day in your head from an 'overall' perspective, in reality you don't live in a 'overview mindful perspective' - you'll be on the ground taking part. And that means you'll miss most of what actually happens at your own wedding.
Pardon?!
Yes, read that again and let it sink in because unfortunately, it's all true. You can't be in two places at once. Apart from not remembering most of your wedding day thanks to emotional amnesia, it will go so fast that you won't have time to do everything you think you will. It's a double whammy.
Most brides drop by to show me their wedding pictures after the honeymoon. It always strikes me how much these photos nudge their memory - things they'd totally forgotten are re-lived in a split second of recall. It takes a photo to trigger that recall. My personal favourite videography is even more satisfying after the event. If you don't think you're the kind of bride who's going to watch re-runs of her wedding in the years to come, you may surprise yourself. I've known hardened cynics to run for the microwave popcorn and tissues by the time their first anniversary rolls round - and sometimes it's been their first (though decidedly not their last) viewing.
The confetti shot is the beginning of the end, make sure you don't miss a single minute.
